Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome is very common amongst successful people at work.  Imposter Syndrome is the fear that, no matter how successful or well qualified you have become, you are not really that good at what you do.  And that, one day, someone is going to find you out, call you a fraud and leave you to pick up the pieces of your shattered credibility and self-esteem.

If you identify with this description, the good news is you don’t have to struggle with these fears. Because that is what they are: fears you have generated about yourself which are not actually the truth about you. Those fears are a reflection of a series of self-limiting and self-defeating beliefs, thoughts and feelings, all of which can be challenged and replaced by self-confident, life-affirming alternatives.

I firmly believe that confidence is a learned skill. Enabling clients to develop their self-confidence, and demonstrate greater self-belief, is a key goal in most coaching programmes. If you would like to read more about how I work with issues around Imposter Syndrome click here.

Deciding Who to Trust at Work – and Over What

Most of you won’t be able to get your job done unilaterally. You’ll need to work well with a range of contacts and colleagues to achieve outcomes of benefit to your employer. One of the issues you need to manage as you set about doing this is whom to trust, and over what.

Trust is a central issue at work and a very individual one. Different people decide to trust on the basis of quite different factors. But usually the decision to trust – in other words the choice to extend trust to a colleague or workplace contact – is based on evidence of behaviour that you have observed or experienced often enough that you have faith in it. Deciding whom to trust and over what is one of the ultimate judgement calls at work, and being wise over whom to trust and over what is a learned skill.

So what is trust as it applies to the workplace?  Click here to keep reading and find out more.

Essential Bully-Proofing Skills

As incidents of workplace bullying increase across the country, acquiring bully-proofing skills has become essential for employees.

Workplace bullying is about power.  The bully wants to remove power from their target and retain that control for themselves, establishing a bullying dynamic between them.  A skilled bully simultaneously attacks three of their target’s forms of power: their personal power (their self-esteem, self-belief and self-confidence); their reputational influence (their credibility in the eyes of others); and their organisational status (their ability to perform their role effectively).

Being attacked in a campaign orchestrated along these lines can be overwhelming.  Targets can feel powerless to protect themselves especially if the bully is more senior than them.  The toxic combination of not knowing how to protect themselves, and having to work alongside the bully day after day, results in many targets complying with the bully’s wishes to get the encounter over with quickly, inadvertently making it easier for the bully to target them again.

However, there is much that a target can do at the time of an attack to mitigate the impact of the bullying and protect themselves.  Click here to keep reading and find out how.